Buying Good Behaviour

It seems that the Love and Logic Institute is not alone in telling parents not pay for grades, chores and good behaviour...

Earlier in the century it was written that the use of presents, rewards and the like should not be employed as a means of establishing good relations between the child and the parents on a "merely commercial basis." It was said that you don't give a child a bike for attending school but you give it to him because it is a plaything and something he will use as such. In this way the parent's love in giving him the present will bring forth a "corresponding affection" from him. Basically, have expectations of your child that he will behave a certain way because he is part of the family and that is the way a family member behaves, and don't bribe him into good behaviour with toys, candy or money!